Heartbreak can be its own trauma.

"The other day, I saw the spitting image of my ex on the platform of the F train. I immediately looked away, but it was already too late. Those three seconds struck me like lightning bolts. A small tear trickled down my cheek as I waited near the tracks. It had been almost two years since my breakup. And I was over it, so why was I suddenly tearing up? I became so mad at myself for being emotional over nothing.

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Bad relationships are like cancer: You can get over them -- and survive -- but the experience will stay with you forever.Time supposedly heals all wounds, but sometimes wounds leave scars. When you look back on the past, you're still going to hurt. Looking back forces you to relive what happened.When you breathe in too many toxins from tragic events, your lungs are affected forever. Your brain is no exception to a toxic connection, even years after a breakup.

 A breakup is, in a sense, the death of a bond with someone. And what is death in its simplest form? Death is a loss of communication, and that's usually what happens when a relationship ends.
When someone dies, you don't simply forget about that person. Life has a way of reminding you. The same thing happens after a breakup. Life won't show you a giant neon sign flashing someone's name. Instead it will give you subtle hints of your ex, like the whiff of his cologne blowing in the wind as you cross the street

Time has a funny way of rewriting the past in order to protect you. Your brain wants to block out whatever hurt you, so it will black out bad memories with a Sharpie. In other words, your mind suppresses memories. It's almost like they never happened. Your mind can also play tricks on you in other ways. Since you might have blocked out all of the bad, you start to only remember the good. That's not healthy, either. You have to remind yourself that time is a tricky b*tch. It can manipulate your memories, and make you see the past better than how things actually played out. Time can cast a prince where there was actually a beast.

When I took an art history class, I learned that warriors used to wear their battles on their armor. What hurt them in the past helped protect them in the present.Whether we acknowledge it or not, what we go through strongly affects who we are and who we're destined to become. Breakups are modern-day battles that we walk away from. But also like in real crusades, we have to heal ourselves.

So we move forward. But going forward means coming from somewhere, and that somewhere stays with us even if we have already physically left. "



Credts: Elite Daily